Being away from family during Christmas feels like a bittersweet experience.
If you’ve seen the movie The Holdovers, you know what it’s like to watch characters deal with the loneliness of the holidays in unexpected ways.
The movie reminds us that even when we’re apart from loved ones, the spirit of the season can still be meaningful — and sometimes, it’s the connections we least expect that make the holidays special.
For students or anyone spending Christmas away from home, this season might feel different from the celebrations you’re used to. But that doesn’t mean it has to be sad or empty.
In fact, it’s an opportunity to create new traditions, connect with others, and even embrace the peace that comes with a quieter holiday.
Here’s how you can make the most of Christmas, even if you’re far from family.
1. Create your own holiday traditions
Just because you’re not at home doesn’t mean you can’t celebrate Christmas in your own unique way. Starting new traditions can help the holiday feel special, even if it looks a little different this year.
Here are a few ideas:
- Host a holiday movie marathon with your favorite classics like Home Alone or Elf.
- Cook a festive meal or bake cookies using a family recipe. It’s a great way to bring a piece of home to wherever you are.
- Write heartfelt cards or emails to loved ones, sharing your favorite memories from the year.
Remember, traditions don’t have to be big or fancy — they just need to bring you joy and a sense of connection to the season.
2. Reach out to friends or classmates
One of the themes in The Holdovers is finding unexpected connections during the holidays.
If you’re spending Christmas away from family, why not reach out to friends, classmates, or neighbors who might be in the same boat?
Plan a small get-together, whether it’s a potluck dinner, a holiday game night, or even a virtual hangout if distance is a factor.
Sometimes, creating a chosen family during the holidays can make the season feel just as warm and fulfilling as being with relatives.
Ask yourself: Who around me might need company this Christmas?
A simple invitation can brighten both your holiday and theirs.
3. Embrace the chance to relax
The holiday season can be chaotic, especially when you’re surrounded by large family gatherings or endless to-do lists.
If you’re away from home, you have a rare opportunity to embrace the quieter side of Christmas.
Take a break from the usual hustle and focus on things that bring you peace:
- Spend the day reading a book you’ve been meaning to finish.
- Take a long walk, enjoying the holiday lights and decorations in your area.
- Reflect on the past year and set intentions for the year ahead.
Sometimes, the best way to make the most of the holidays is by slowing down and letting yourself simply be.
4. Volunteer your time
One of the most heartwarming ways to make Christmas meaningful is by giving back to your community.
Volunteering not only helps others but also fills your heart with a sense of purpose and connection.
Look for opportunities to:
- Help at a local food bank or soup kitchen.
- Visit nursing homes or hospitals to bring holiday cheer.
- Participate in toy or clothing drives for families in need.
Giving your time and energy to others can remind you of the true spirit of Christmas: generosity, kindness, and love.
5. Stay connected with loved ones virtually
Even if you’re far from family, technology makes it easier than ever to stay connected. Set up a video call to open presents together, play games online, or simply chat over hot cocoa.
Pro Tip: Plan something interactive, like:
- Watching the same holiday movie together while on a video call.
- Cooking the same meal or dessert and sharing the results virtually.
- Playing online trivia or a game that everyone enjoys.
Sometimes, hearing the voices and seeing the faces of loved ones is all you need to feel closer to home.
6. Decorate your space, no matter how small
It might feel tempting to skip the decorations if you’re spending Christmas alone, but a little holiday cheer in your space can make a big difference.
Hang up fairy lights, put up a small tree (or even just a few ornaments), and light a festive candle. These simple touches can create a cozy, joyful atmosphere and help you feel more connected to the season.
Think about it:
Would Christmas feel the same without those little reminders of the holiday spirit?
I’d say, probably not. So don’t hesitate to make your space shine.
7. Dive into a holiday project or hobby
If you’re looking for a way to pass the time while also making the holiday special, try starting a creative project or hobby.
It could be as simple as:
- Writing a holiday-themed story or journal entry.
- Knitting a scarf or creating handmade gifts.
- Experimenting with DIY holiday decorations.
Channeling your energy into something creative can help you feel productive and fulfilled, even if you’re not surrounded by the usual holiday chaos.
8. Explore holiday traditions from other cultures
Being away from home is a great excuse to learn about how other cultures celebrate Christmas (or other winter holidays).
Dive into festive traditions from around the world — who knows, you might even adopt some new ones!
For example:
- In Iceland, people give books on Christmas Eve and spend the night reading—a tradition called Jólabókaflóð.
- In Mexico, Las Posadas involves reenacting Mary and Joseph’s search for shelter, followed by festive feasts.
- In Germany, it’s common to celebrate St. Nicholas Day on December 6th by filling shoes with treats.
- In Georgia, a unique tradition involves “Alilo,” a Christmas procession where children and adults dress in festive costumes, sing carols, and collect treats for the less fortunate.
Exploring new traditions can add a sense of wonder and discovery to your holiday.
9. Write down your favorite holiday memories
If you’re missing home, take some time to reflect on past Christmases and the memories that mean the most to you. Write them down in a journal, create a photo collage, or even record a video for yourself.
This process can be both nostalgic and healing, helping you feel connected to your family and traditions even when you’re apart.
I once spent Christmas away from my family and wrote letters to each of them, sharing my favorite holiday memories. It not only helped me feel closer to them but also gave them a heartfelt gift to cherish.
10. Treat yourself
Let’s not forget — you deserve to enjoy this holiday, too.
Whether it’s buying yourself a gift, indulging in your favorite treat, or spending the day doing exactly what you want, don’t hesitate to prioritize your happiness.
Ask yourself:
What would make this Christmas special for me?
Maybe it’s ordering takeout from your favorite restaurant, binge-watching a new series, or just taking the time to relax guilt-free.
Either case, treating yourself isn’t selfish — it’s self-care.
Conclusion: Finding joy wherever you are
Christmas away from family can feel daunting, but it doesn’t have to be lonely or unfulfilling.
Just like in The Holdovers, this time of year has a way of surprising us with unexpected connections and quiet moments of joy.
Whether you’re creating new traditions, connecting with friends, or embracing the calm, this holiday can still be meaningful.
Remember, the spirit of Christmas isn’t tied to where you are — it’s about how you make the most of the season.
So, light up your space, treat yourself to something special, and know that no matter where you are, the warmth of the season is within reach.